”The door to my heart opens inward. I move through forgiveness to love”. You can never be free of bitterness as long as you continue to think unforgiving thoughts. How can you be happy in this moment if you continue to choose to be angry and resentful? Thoughts of bitterness can’t create joy. No matter how justified you feel you are, no matter what “they” did, if you insist on holding on to the past, then you will never be free. Forgiving yourself and others will release you from the prison of the past.
When you feel that you’re stuck in some situation, or when your affirmations aren’t working, it usually means that there’s more forgiveness work to be done. When you don’t flow freely with life in the present moment, it usually means that you’re holding on to a past moment. It can be regret, sadness, hurt, fear, guilt, blame, anger, resentment, or sometimes even a desire for revenge. Each one of these states comes from a space of unforgiveness, a refusal to let go and come in to the present moment. Only in the present moment can you create your future.
If you’re holding on to the past, you can’t be in the present. It’s only in this “now” moment that your thoughts and words are powerful. So you really don’t want to waste your current thoughts by continuing to create your future from the garbage of the past.
When you blame another, you give your own power away because you’re placing the responsibility for your feelings on someone else. People in your life may behave in ways that trigger uncomfortable responses in you. However, they didn’t get into your mind and create the buttons that have been pushed. Taking responsibility for your own feelings and reactions is mastering your “ability to respond.” In other words, you learn to consciously choose rather than simply react.
Forgiveness is a tricky and confusing concept for many people, but know that there’s a difference between forgiveness and acceptance. Forgiving someone doesn’t mean that you condone their behavior! The act of forgiveness takes place in your own mind. It really has nothing to do with the other person. The reality of true forgiveness lies in setting yourself free from the pain. It’s simply an act of releasing yourself from the negative energy that you’ve chosen to hold on to.
Also, forgiveness doesn’t mean allowing the painful behaviors or actions of another to continue in your life. Sometimes forgiveness means letting go: You forgive that person and then you release them. Taking a stand and setting healthy boundaries is often the most loving thing you can do—not only for yourself, but for the other person as well.
No matter what your reasons are for having bitter, unforgiving feelings, you can go beyond them. You have a choice. You can choose to stay stuck and resentful, or you can do yourself a favor by willingly forgiving what happened in the past; letting it go; and then moving on to create a joyous, fulfilling life. You have the freedom to make your life anything you want it to be because you have freedom of choice.
Positive Affirmations for Forgiveness
Today I listen to my feelings, and I am gentle with myself. I know that all of my feelings are my friends.
I give myself the gift of freedom from the past, and move with joy into the now.
I get the help I need, when I need it, from various sources. My support system is strong and loving.
There is no problem so big or so small that it cannot be solved with love.
I am ready to be healed. I am willing to forgive. All is well.
When I make a mistake, I realize that it is only part of the learning process.
I move beyond forgiveness to understanding, and I have compassion for all.
I know that old, negative patterns no longer limit me. I let them go with ease.
I am forgiving, loving, gentle, and kind, and I know that life loves me.
As I forgive myself, it becomes easier to forgive others.
“What keeps me going during this difficult time. I try not to focus all my attention on the tragedies – but focus and acknowledge the many thousands of people who are coming together in unity to help one another. There have been many heroes! That's what I am choosing to focus on ... the good in people!
We have a tendency to live in fear when we see so much of it right in front of us. Some things are beyond our control and when we don't have control – fear emerges. I asked my dear friend Lauren Rainbow the other day: “How does one stop living in fear?” She said she remembered a quote from many years ago that she heard: “The opposite of fear – is love.” Those few little words made total sense to me, and made me feel peaceful.
So my advice in this short Soul Inspirations, which is dedicated to the recent news is this. Right now, try to stay present. Make time and go inside for a few a minutes everyday. Breathe and recognize that peace lives in you. Reach for the peace that dwells there. Feel the peace and feel the love. This is also a good time to be grateful for what you do have in your life. It doesn't matter how small it is. Being grateful helps to keep you in the here and now. Gratitude has its own wonderful positive energy to it.
Send out the peace and love that you feel to everyone who needs it. When you have your own inner-peace, it can resonate to those around you. If everyone did this, then imagine how it would be felt around world?
I hope this newsletter helps in one small way – and you received it, just when you or someone else needed it. Maybe just forward it to someone you know who's hurting right now.”